“What does recovery look like?”

“How do I get rid of the eating disorder?”

“If I mess up, does that mean I’m a failure or won’t get better?”

Common themes in therapy include: what eating disorder recovery is like, what is possible, and how to ‘get there. Eating disorder professionals do a great job of defining an eating disorder and explaining the associated risks. However, sometimes we forget to talk to our clients and their loved ones about the process of eating disorder recovery. One of my favorite illustrations of both the eating disorder and eating disorder recovery is from Dr. Anita Johnston’s book, ‘Eating in the Light of the Moon.’  

            “Imagine yourself standing in the rain on the bank of a raging river. Suddenly, the water-swollen bank gives way. You fall in and find yourself being tossed around in the rapids. Your efforts to keep afloat are futile, and you are drowning. Along comes a log, and you grab it and hold on tight. The log keeps your head above water and saves your life. Clinging to the log, you are swept downstream and eventually come to a place where the water is calm. In the distance, you see the riverbank and attempt to swim to shore. You cannot do so, however, because you are still clinging to the huge log with one arm as you stroke the other. How ironic. The very thing that saved your life is now getting in the way of getting where you want to go. People on the shore see you struggle and yell, “Let go of the log!”  But you cannot do so because you have no confidence in your ability to make it to shore………

……….And so, very slowly and carefully, you let go of the log and practice floating. When you start to sink, you grab back on. Then you let go of the log and practice treading water, and when you get tired, hold on once again. After a while, you practice swimming around the log once, twice, ten times, twenty times, or a hundred times, until you gain the strength and confidence you need to swim to shore. Only then do you completely let go of the log.”**

Here’s what Dr. Johnston’s metaphor means to me: 

  • The eating disorder served a function in the beginning. It’s misguided. It ultimately takes a ton from you. It could even kill you. Nonetheless, it showed up as a way to help you. 
    • Part of the eating disorder recovery process is learning what this function is. In other words, we are trying to answer the question: What is the eating disorder helping you cope with? Once you understand that, you can work through the underlying reasons for treating the disease and start learning ways to navigate stressors. 
  • BUT you also need to learn how to live without the eating disorder. Someone telling you just to eat or let go of the log is not enough. For positive and sustained change to occur, a person needs to be ready for change AND have confidence that they can make these desired changes. Exploring ambivalence and developing skills that increase a client’s confidence in their ability to change is crucial. Developing this confidence can occur through aspects of therapy such as mindfulness tools and strength-based interventions.

As you learn new tools and address the underlying eating disorder, you start to let go of the log here and there. Because eating disorder recovery is a process, remember it doesn’t have to happen all at once. Many clients have expressed relief once they realize the log is still there if needed. It seems to take away some pressure and lessens the fear of taking the first step. Eating disorder recovery is a journey with slips and setbacks, ups and downs. It’s not linear. It takes time and patience, and support. And in the end, you won’t need the log. Life becomes free of all the anguish, distress, and behaviors associated with an eating disorder. Life can look a lot different on the other side of the river.

**Excerpt from Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationship with Food Through Myths, Metaphors, and Storytelling by Dr. Anita Johnson.