Couples often turn to counseling during challenging times, such as after an affair or when a relationship is on the verge of divorce. However, couples therapy can also be invaluable in less dire circumstances, such as when seeking to deepen their connection or support for a variety of life transitions. In fact, one of the most rewarding aspects of my work as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) is facilitating the deepening of a couple’s relationship, resulting in a more resilient and strengthened partnership. Over the years, I’ve found The Gottman Method to be an effective approach for a variety of presenting concerns, whether a couple is in distress or looking to gain intimacy.
What is The Gottman Method?
The Gottman Method is a couples therapy approach that involves a detailed evaluation of the relationship and applies evidence-based interventions grounded in the Sound Relationship House Theory. The therapy aims to reduce negative communication, enhance intimacy, respect, and affection, break down barriers that contribute to relationship stagnation, and foster a deeper sense of empathy and understanding between partners.
Other Reasons to Seek Couples Therapy:
Beyond crisis situations, couples may seek therapy for many reasons, including premarital and relationship enrichment, navigating changes in family structure, and managing complex in-law and family relationships.
Premarital and Relationship Enrichment:
The Gottman Method focuses on foundational elements in preparation for marriage or enhancing an existing relationship. It combines assessment, psychoeducation, and in-depth therapy, often addressing areas such as:
- The philosophy of intimate partnership or marriage
- Decision-making processes
- Financial management and division of household labor
- Navigating parenthood and in-law dynamics
- Conflict resolution and improved communication
- Building a deep friendship and sexual intimacy
Creating shared meaning and life goals
Relationship Enrichment:
Couples therapy incorporating The Gottman Method can also delve into personal growth and connection within the relationship. The goal is to cultivate deep friendships, shared meaning, and life goals. Together, we work on:
- Strengthening friendship by deepening understanding and knowledge of each other
- Identifying areas of stagnation and overcoming obstacles together
- Engaging in meaningful, thought-provoking conversations
- Adapting to the evolving needs of long-term relationships or addressing feelings of drifting apart
Navigating Changes in Family Structure:
As families evolve over time, couples therapy can provide crucial support during transitions, such as:
- Welcoming a new child into the family
- Adjusting to an empty nest
- Caring for aging parents
- Shifting roles within the relationship, such as becoming a caregiver
- Adapting to retirement
- Entering or leaving the workforce
- Coping with career changes
- Managing major life transitions
Managing Complex In-Law and Family Relationships:
As families evolve over time, couples therapy can provide crucial support during transitions, such as:
- Welcoming a new child into the family
- Adjusting to an empty nest
- Caring for aging parents
- Shifting roles within the relationship, such as becoming a caregiver
- Adapting to retirement
- Entering or leaving the workforce
- Coping with career changes
- Managing major life transitions
Final Thoughts
Engaging in couples therapy with a specialized LMFT can be beneficial for numerous reasons, including enhancing communication, managing family changes, and navigating complex relationships. Couples therapy offers a unique opportunity for personal growth and deepening the connection between partners, ultimately fostering a healthier and more fulfilling relationship. Whether you’re preparing for marriage, adapting to life transitions, or addressing family dynamics, couples therapy, and The Gottman Method provides valuable support at every stage of your relationship.
About the Author
Katie Godfrey, PhD, LMFT
Dr. Katie Godfrey, LMFT is a seasoned expert in trauma recovery with EMDR, perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, and LGBTQ+ Affirming care. She brings her passion for helping her clients thrive into every session. Katie is approachable, knowledgeable, and easy to talk to.
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