The mornings are cool, the days are hot and there is a buzz in the air. It’s a time of new hopes and dreams, new beginnings and cold feet. Whether or not it is your child’s first year of school or they are well into their school years, the beginning of a new school year can be a time when everyone in the house will benefit from clear communication, extra hugs and a whole lot of understanding.
Effective co-parenting during this period is crucial for providing a consistent and supportive environment, which helps children adjust more smoothly to their new routines. When both parents work together, they can minimize stress and anxiety for their child, ensuring that the return to school is a positive and successful experience.
Here are some general guidelines to make the transition move a bit more smoothly for all.
- Communicate with your co-parent early. A few weeks before the first day, review calendars, discuss the supply list and complete the forms. If there are field trips you would like to accompany your child, discuss with your co-parent and perhaps take turns. If communication is difficult and acrimonious, use email, or your court assigned communication system. Don’t include your child in making the parenting decisions.
- Structure, Routine and Predictability. Each home will be different and navigating the differences at each home for kids can be challenging. At each home, try to maintain as much predictability as possible.
- Share with your child the plan for extracurricular activities, field trips, and performances.
- If possible, make the return to school about the ways both parents will be supportive and show up. Don’t make promises you can’t keep.
- Remember, each year your kids are making memories that will be with them for years to come.
- Communicate with your child’s teacher about their living situations in a way that will benefit your child educationally.
- Keep it simple.
- Exercise grace for your co parent, and most importantly for your child.
Final Thoughts
Navigating the back-to-school transition requires patience, cooperation, and open communication between co-parents. By prioritizing the well-being of the child and working together, co-parents can create a stable and nurturing environment that supports their child’s academic and emotional growth. Remember, the goal is to make this transition as seamless as possible for the child, ensuring they feel confident and supported as they embark on a new school year.
About the Author
Libby Korell, MSW, LCSW
Libby Korell, LCSW is passionate about her work helping people heal from complex, multilayered traumatic histories. She has special expertise in helping children and families coping with life limiting illness, abuse, major trauma and loss. She works with children, adults and parents in a caring, direct, and warm manner. She is highly adept at working with pregnant moms, postpartum families, and adults (ages 20 and up) struggling with depression, anxiety, or Posttraumatic Stress Disorder.
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